Boyfriend troubles! am i being totally ridiculous or is he?!?

His actions while he was ill or thought he was ill were perfectly normal. His actions when you told him YOUR problems were ALSO perfectly normal...for a callous git. The question isn't whether you are being ridiculous or whether HE is being ridiculous. YOU are being ridiculous. But you are being ridiculous because I assume you are still together. If you actually meant your EX boyfriend, then good show. And he's still a callous git in any case. And a git is a prat...wanker...idiot...in case you're unfamiliar with the term. At 17, you're FAR too young to be tied down/attached to what we might refer to as a...non-caring loser...or selfish loser...or idiotic loser...choose which ever term you feel most appropriate. But don't forget the "loser". Sorry if this sounds harsh, but seeing girls staying with guys who treat them like dirt (for whatever reason they do this) makes me a wee bit angry. And while this may be a one-off occurrence, the problem is this: Someone who hits you once will likely hit you again. Someone who mistreats you will likely do THAT again. Perhaps when he sees that you're angry he will straighten up and fly right. Perhaps not. Perhaps he will "put himself in your shoes". Perhaps not. But for the moment he sounds like a right git and a right loser. Sorry if you think I've over-used the terms "git" and "loser" in reference to your boyfriend or EX boyfriend, but I feel it appropriate in this case. "Also, while i was taking care of him i also had bronchitis and a flu bug i'd been trying to get over. He never took care of me, or even cared to ask how i was feeling." I think the KEY is in the statement "or even CARED (emphasis mine) to ask". Things may work out and he may "change his tune". But perhaps not. But for the moment, he sounds like a loserly git. It may be best to move forward rather than stay in the same place. He sounds somewhat (and by "somewhat" I mean "extremely") selfish and self-absorbed (redundant, I realise, but I'm trying to stress this point). What you ultimately do is up to you...but unless there is a slight (and by "slight" I mean "tremendous") change in his actions and attitude...you can likely guess what my advice would be.